Life of a Woman

This article is written based on my observation

A woman, who thinks that she has found her true love
a highly educated man to depend on, to love and protect her
for the rest of her life
and willingly step on the path to her marriage life
Turn out to be a nightmare

Slowly, the true colour of the man is exposed
Time will reveal the truth...
Living in great fear and disappointment
That the man would suddenly explode on a small matter on her
That the man imposed his rule and dictated her
That the man then controlled her life
She has lost her total freedom, even in religion
To be chained forever, in this so called the security of marriage...
All her beauty, her potential...barried alive...

She then lives for the sake of surviving
Living for the sake of her children
The only light and strength for her in her life

All the tension, disappointment has been carved into her body
As hard as the diamond
Her heart, so shattered, one can hardly put the pieces back together

Now, that her children has grown up, the man has toned down,
With the golden time left in her life, and the expanding space that she has
she is now able to live an enjoyable life
Doing what she likes
Expecting gratitude from all her children and the man
But deep in her heart, her wound never heal

This woman
Has sacrificed a lot
and yet remain strong
but mentally shattered ...to almost mental breakdown
What a life...meaningful?...If she has the opportunity to choose again, what will she choose?

Therefore, all man out there
please if you want to get married
Do love your wife
She does not belong to you
She is not your maid
She is not your baby production factory
She is not on call, 24 hours, any time any where

She is a human being
with a heart
A person married to be love and to love

If you cannot create happiness, KEEP QUIET
Don't create more suffering
Make a positive difference in people who are close and dear to you....

Are You Ready to be Awakened?

When you are present in this moment,
you break the continuity of your story, of past and future.
Then true intelligence arises, and also love.
The only way love can come into your life is not through form,
but through that inner spaciousness that is Presence.
Love has no form.

- Excerpt from Eckhart Tolle's Stillness Amidst the World
http://www.eckharttolle.com/eckharttolle

What You Emphasize

I got this daily reflection & find it very useful!!

The trick is in what one emphasizes.
We either make ourselves miserable,
or we make ourselves strong.
The amount of work is the same.

-- Carlos Castaneda

Coming Back to Home

Even with the foundation in dhamma,
as I spent more time at work
pursuing career
mixing with peope of worldly pursuit & thinking
and spending less time 'coming home'
I find myself getting further and further away from this 'home' right inside
lost in the world of work,
work created by crazy ppl for crazy persuit
to get more money and fame
the entire work culture has changed from the outside
the work culture has encouraged ppl to work more
for money, fame and status
against healthy lifestyle, healthy mind, heanlty body

My life which was once simple
has now become complicated
A simple act of sleeping early has then (last year) become so difficult
A simple act of exercising three times a week has become so difficult too
Due to the need to prepare PowerPoint as teaching material every night
The exhausted body that needed more rest than having the energy to exercise
The burning anger and unsatisfaction, with the consistantly lack of sleep
for a year
has been a rich soil to degenerate the body and mind

This kind of continuous stress for 3 years, can quickly degenerate a body that is well maintained for the past 20 over years

I have had enough of it.
I want to take charge of my life, my body, my mind
I want to come back 'home'

I have placed priority on health now
Proper breakfast, enough rest and sleep early
I will start to adjust my exersice this month
I will give time to quiet down the mind
and strengthen the mindfulness to observe the nature of mind body processes

One thing that I am grateful now is I am still care free
The price to pay to get a companion
Is not worthwhile than having a carefree life
At least for a Chinese woman in Malaysia
I am not a free high class maid for life
Not on call 24 hrs, any time, any where
Not a baby production factory
Not a vase
Not a christmas tree
No no...

I am a woman who leads a care free life
Nobody to command me
Belongs to nobody
Reports to nobody

Enjoying my care free life
As I contribute to the growth of my students, my babies, my angels and warriors...
Doing what I love
Leading a meaningful life
Yes I am
Reaching the love from within
Reaching the peace from within
Reaching the clarify from within
And sharing this energy/ vibration from 'home'
Thank you, lord Buddha, my mum, my masters, my dhamma friends...

Vipassana

Grateful for having learnt the method to observe the nature of mind & body
Grateful for having the condition to meditate for 4 mths plus
Grateful for seeing the dharma
Which allows the wisdom to passify the mind in face of unexpected change
Grateful for Christopher Moon's sharing of wisdom
" Any situation is negative, positive or neutral, depending on the position you take"
Allow me to share what he wrote:
One's reaction to any situation is predicated by the position that one is taking within the situation.
If you take the position that something is wrong, then you must react to the situation as a problem.
If you decide that the situation is an opportunity to receive something, then that is what will unfold.
It is very important to see that the position you take is one of many. The only thing that matters about the path you take is whether or not it has a heart.
Grateful also for the loving light meditation.

After the incident, I realise that the most precious thing for me in life is the cultivation of the mind. A mind deep in wisdom that nothing will shake it from its peace in face of the impermanance of life. The Noble Eight fold path. Health is my utmost priority as well. If the priority is placed wrongly, then one's life will be in unrest...

The Most Beautiful Things in this World

The best and most beautiful things in this world

Cannot be seen or even touched

They must be felt with the heart

Taiwan....

Finally...my another dream destination...!!
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